Wednesday, October 11, 2017

give me strength


thank you to all the visitors and subscribers from Latin America and Europe... I do appreciate your views and messages as well... I need to check my stats more often, instead of only checking when I get high numbers from just one country... I didn't realize just how many people were actually reading this site... but I thank you all... I am looking for a new home for this journal but for now... looks like I will have to give The Deringer Files it's own site.... 'till then... revolt.

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

and this is where we are...

Well now that I have had time to sober up and time to shake a little of the insanity off me...

In all honesty...

I like Dags – I have for a very long time – but the situation...

That word – “situation...” what the fuck does it even mean – every time I think of that word I think of Elsa – see... after she married and she called me crying about what she had done... she used that word – I wrote everything down back then - that whole damn relationship got recorded in note books that are packed in a box back home... but anyway... I tried to get some fucking honesty out of her (Elsa) and wanted to know why and she said to me that I did not understand her situation... her exact words - “you don't understand my situation” - I never asked I just let my imagination do what it had to do... I wonder if this person claiming to be her in this last e-mail knows that... I threw away everything that had to do with that chick except for my notebooks about her – kept those to torture myself with... that's a joke – they are there to remind me of what to do and not to do and it has worked so far... after I came to terms with the truth about women, your cousin Dash has been balls deep in fine young pussy – crazy, but fine... I am an ass-hole and contemplated that fact about myself over the last two days... I am a serious first class prick...

But my intentions have never been to hurt Dagmar – that, my friends and good readers (that are cheering for her, as you have said in your messages) is the honest truth.

As you know I am friends with her father – not only friends but the man took me in and tried to teach me some things to help me navigate my fucked up life through this fucked up world... I admit to not always having been a good friend to some, but I never hurt any of them nor did I ever stab anyone in the back... but many sure did to me... and I know revenge is a terrible thing to waste ones time and energy on... but some of those fuckers have it coming... so I know what it is like to have friends betray your trust and I cannot and I will not do it to Dag's father... so I have kept her (tried to keep her) at a distance – I am told that the old man is staying out of it... but still... that is my situation... I owe the man my loyalty and in many ways my life... and I have tried when I can, to repay his favors and I have tried to look out for her but it turns out many times that she is looking out for me... but then I go and do things that hurt her and betray her trust... even though she has proven her loyalty to me time and again... see... I'm a prick.

Was it a year ago – or two... I can't keep track of time. I had met this Northern European looking Mexican girl and we had a little fling and she had invited me to go down and see her in Mexico City and we had spoken about taking a trip to a beach further South... this was when I was having a hacking problem with my google account and I figured it was the same person as before because there was once a person causing problems for me on-line pretending to be me and other people – just to be a faggot... I had Dags fix that problem while I chased that girl. I got an e-mail from some one claiming to be Elsa – and if you have read the babble then you know that chick was my only long term relationship but really there is not much to say about her other than that... once I was locked up in my room for four days and I was not coming out, but Dagmar coaxed me out with a fresh bottle of Johnny Walker... and we drank and I told her about Elsa – it was the first time I ever mentioned that girl to Dags and it was a mystery to her why I never did before, but as I said, there is nothing to tell as my life began after Elsa... so I got that e-mail but I never read it as I was in transit around Mexico... and I told Dags to delete it... anyhow... and Dags had used everything I had told her about that relationship and how it came to an end to deduce that it could not be who they said it was from... and I concurred... the Nordic Mexican girl flaked and I went to catch up with Cris and Jan – they were in Guadalajara and making their way to Cris' ranch – When Nic (Dom) passed away, he left Cris his property in Mexico – it could be a ranch but it is just a big empty space with an old adobe house on it... I did not tell Dags where I was going – she assumed I would be with the Nordic girl but then I would be heading home... but I never made it when I said I would... she panics – as she does, and left for Juarez to find someone in the tribe to go after me... I had let Tommy know (he is the one I used to refer to as young Tony Montana) where I would be, and he put Dags on a plain back home and he went after me... Tommy and Jan hit it off as friends from the start – they are the same age and Jan convinced Tommy to go to Asia and help him work some hustles there... and I left Cris to go back home but I was side tracked - Panama... Colombia... oh Colombia... and it was when I was in Cartagena that I let Dags know where I was and she started to let on about her feelings and that it would be best for me to just get my ass back home so I returned to her... and we tried to figure out what was happening between us as I also had feelings for her but kept it hidden as best as I could though she says I did a poor job of it... but her walking around in those skirts of hers and those silk shirts... may also had something to do with me not being able to disguise my growing lust for her... yeah...

We have been dancing that dance in circles ever since...and I have pushed her away and she has ran away and I have chased her and she has returned and I have pushed her away again and again... but she kept coming back... and I found myself not wanting her to leave and I began to have struggles with this whole thing – because of my friend – her father... but I did, for a time, try to do everything I could to keep her from leaving me... though... I knew this should not go too far... but I want(ed) it to go far... see what's happening here – that struggle... I want her... and she wants it too... but we both know the reasons why we can't... yeah... fuckin' hell is right.

I think it was in August of last year – yes, a year ago almost exactly that I received another e-mail from this person claiming to be Elsa and I responded but never really believed it was from her – it was just a short response and I never heard from that person again - because it just makes no fucking sense or logic to me why she would ever want to contact me – but a few years back some one was trying to find me under her name and I figured it was that person that was causing me problems – so why do I not believe this person to be Elsa – because I saw that chick in Houston many years ago – looked right at her and there was no reaction. Saw her again at a Carl's burgers in El Paso one night, she had walked in with a couple brat kids... again I looked right at her and there was no reaction... so why would she try to contact me through e-mail... but maybe it was not her that I was looking at... as my memory of her is hazy... I don't have any pictures to use as a reference and I don't think she ever had any pictures of me either... so it could have been that we just are different people than the ones we were when we knew each-other... I know I sure am... and plus, my face has taken a beating and parts are not the same... or it wasn't her... but I am convinced, as Dagmar has tried to tell me – if it is her, she just wants attention... don't waste my time.

A few months back I had come home (Juarez) and Dags was on the floor crying and she was going through some of my papers and I stood there not knowing what to say or do because I had never seen her like that before... and I take a step closer and she looks up at me and screams - “you said you didn't love her!!!” and I had no idea who or what the fuck she was going on about until I got closer and saw the papers on the ground, she clutched one of them in her hands and that old bruised heart of mine sunk a little bit... and I was furious that she had found them and started reading them... and she repeated with one of those letters in her fist – “you told me you didn't love her...” and she let out a scream.

I knelt down and took her in my arms and tried to calm her and silence her... but the only thing that did anything to calm her was to say things I should not have said... I did not lie to her – I did not lie to you and you know that... but I should not have said all those things... but I said it and it was real... and despite of my philandering ways... my feelings for you are real...

She had found letters that I write to Veronica – it is what I do... another exercise in therapy (like this blog). And in those letters are the words I never said – dreams I would have liked to share with her... another life – that could have been... with her... I always have and I may always write letters to Veronica's ghost... insane... maybe... but it actually keeps me sane... but... I can't love a ghost for the rest of my life and I can't chase after the ghost of Veronica - now that it seems that even the ghost of her has abandoned me... I know... but... it was always a comfort to know that the ghost of her would be there for me in those times when I would lose myself in my solitude... and no matter how many girls come and go... she would be there... but... I keep thinking that - Veronica's ghost came around less and less when Dagmar came back into my life... I don't know what that means.

And Dags left – again, only to return again... but I had to go back to the states... and I left her behind... again... and then she left... and then we come to last week when I got another e-mail from this person and I wanted to have Dags track it back to its source because you know these modern kids know how to do all that computer shit... but she got angry at me and even accused me of writing it myself and doing this all just to make her jealous - what the fuck... I was pissed and she stopped responding to me and stopped answering the phone and all I wanted was to find out who this ass-hole is... I know the spammer is from France... but I know that is a different person entirely.... and then, as you know, she wrote that letter... which I thought was worthy of sharing with you all – but I kept the second one to myself as it really went off on some crazy shit that had nothing to with me or our feelings for each-other – women bring up the craziest shit when they are mad... that makes no sense and it took me a while to even figure out what she was even talking about in many parts... 'cause, hey... I wasn't there for that... and that wasn't me... and really... this is all my fault just to let her have the last word... but she cut me off and I have not heard from her since...

So I got drunk and went to places I should not have been and did things I should not have done... but This guy we call the Roman found me and dragged me out and sobered me up.

And here we are today... (he shrugs his shoulders at his own reflection and stares at his cold coffee for a very long time).

Thank you all for your messages – thank you Russia and all of Asia for your visits and messages and to all those loyalists – I truly do appreciate your views and letters.

No – I will not stop writing but I am looking for a new home for these Deringer Files – screw google and blogger – this will be the fourth time DF had to find a new host... but I think I will publish this journal of mine under a different format entirely... this site will stay up as is and I am looking to submit writings elsewhere so keep an eye out for those – but all this personal junk that you voyeurs seem to like will go someplace else...

Thank you.

Dash.



Friday, September 29, 2017

Filed Under - her side of the story

There is not enough tequila in the whole damn country to help me forget these last twenty four hours.

And just how much of this disaster am I responsible for - probably all of it... probably all of it...

When I fuck things up I really fuck things up... talent.

This may very well be the last post I make at these Deringer Files - it was fun while it lasted - but I can't deal with other peoples insanity when I have my own to deal with -it is just not fun any more and what started out as an experiment in therapy may have turned into a complete disaster - someone has it out for me - but I will still be around... lurking and you can always find me here rifling through these files.

We close it all with this letter that the girl we call Dagmar sent me today - since others claiming to be who I believe them not to be are giving their side of the story - and many of them just don't make any God damn sense whatsoever... She decided to throw hers into the damn hat as well...so here it is a little bit of crazy, from the only letter I know to be genuine...

Drink up amigos... I am way ahead of you.

When my father first brought you home you were a mess, your face was still swollen and bloody and cut up, you could not see out of one eye, your jaw was busted, you walked like an old dog from the street that was run over by a car that destiny kept alive for her own perverted amusement.

And you freightened me. I hid behind my oldest sister and my mother, but you don't remember that because you could not see well. I looked at you through the small space between them and hide my face from you.

You looked like a monster. You were broken and I remember my mother saying that night to my father (when my parents thought I had gone to sleep but I could not, because there was a strange monster in the house), my mother said you were beyond fixing, that you were too lost in your hatred and anger and that you were a ghost in the world that death did not even want.

I did not know then what my mother meant about all those things because I was so young but I truly do remember those words she was saying.

I would not understand them until many years later when I would find out how true it is that you are damaged beyond the help of the shamans you go hunting for.

But I think they are all just too sad to tell you the truth my love – this bitch of a life beat you good and hard and no matter how much you try to pretend that you are over it all – you are not, and you do not belong here among the barely living in this shit world of ours

But here you are always a step ahead of the reaper, but maybe like my mother says, he gets close enough and realizes that it's you and he throws you back.

I know I am not the first person to tell you this and I will not be the last – you were not made for these times we are in.

Your dreams are beyond this worlds understanding. Your soul is lonely for a time that may never had existed. Your heart breaks for a love that can never fill you up, because it is something you simply do not believe in anymore

And I know that and I accept that, but I do not have to like it.

But here is what I think, my lovely dreamer, and it is the truth that every one knows but you.

You have to empty your heart of the love you did not get to give before you can fill it with the love I want to give you............................ I said it. But you already know.

Querido mongolon, I know the truth. I have spoken with Frankie, and everyone who has met him and heard the true story of that romance you scaled down to just some passing affair as you made your way back home, some little fling with another young girl - sick and lonely and afraid – that you crawlled out of the depths for only to stumble back down into it when she was gone. It was more than what you make it out to be.

And the way Frankie tells it – that was a love that only Russian poets could dream up and the city of Asuncion has the scars and scorches of that romance on it still as proof of the love you made, poeta, as you said – “where is the proof I will leave behind for the love I made”
It is there. Cris knows it, Jan knows it, Tommy knows it, and Dom knew it. My father knows it – the whole damn tribe knows it. And you know it. But you wish to deny it.

She is the one that broke you – not that Elsa. And that girl Carmen, stupid girl, is just another poor victem of the passion that you scoundered on the slow train into hell. You damn stupid fool.

I want to tell you.

I like the way you remember me and the way you tell me the stories of when I was young. You remember it all different than the rest do, but you were always watching me as a stranger from the shadows even when you were in the light. You were always distant from the family, from the crowd. Watching over me like a guardian angel – that one outcast trying to buy his way back home by looking after some spoiled brat girl – you were that wounded dog in my fathers house... that is what we called you. My mother started that, she was so cruel to you, but I imagine all mothers have been cruel to you.

The wounded dog in my fathers house. That loyal dog that sat at the masters feet waiting with dignity and pride for the scraps from the table. To proud to beg and to broken to run away. And that mean little girl tugging at your broken ear and teasing you and calling you names and sticking her tongue at you.

But you were there to chase the other monsters away and you watched over us in the night, sitting in the dark looking out the window at the night - I watched you many times just looking and listening for other ghosts and monsters and you never slept until the sun started to come out and then you would close your eyes and pretend to wake up.

But I knew you did not sleep. Did you know that I watched you. Did you know that I knew your secret.

I have been collecting and uncovering your secrets since I was little

But I do not want to know them all because I do not want to know the whole truth about the wounded dog in my fathers house.

My father never told me about what happened to you and how he found you and all the things that really led to how you came to be that broken dog from the street. I have never asked him and I have never asked you and I never will – but will oneday the truth I uncover, and then learn something that should have stayed unspoken and undcovered?

I'll tell you when I knew.

It was when I had gotten mad at my mother and sisters and I said I was going to run away and I ran away into the fields with only my bag with a notebook and a markers and my hair brush and I was out there all day until it started to get dark and when I came out of the field you were sitting in the middle of the path just looking into the direction of where I wlked out... just sitting there waiting for me and I started to cry and you carried me back home.

You did not say anything you just let me cry and I wanted to say I was sorry for being mean to you all the time but then I thought you might think I was weak if I did tell you but you let my cry all the way home and you did not say anything and you put me down before we got to the house and let me walk in on my own.

And I walked past my mother without saying anything and I walked past my father and went to my room

But then I stopped to look back at my father and he looked at you and that was when he knew that you were going to be part of our lives forever.

That is what he said.

And my mother knew it too. But honestly, I do not really know why my mother has it in for you... well maybe now because she hates that I feel the way I do for you, but for back then, I could not figure it out, but once we were at church and it is one time when father was worried about you that my mother lited a candle for you and she said for you to be safe (so that father could stop to worry about you)... did you never expect that to happen my love.

You were right about saying that you were the most worse student of my father. He did say it too, but his love for you was always there and you are with the most favorite of people in the world for him.

My father is getting old dear, and I hope that you will returnsoon to see him.

Do you know that my father always knew everything you were doing, where you were and when you were in trouble and that when you joined up with Cris and Dom that he always followed you and what you were up to – I know that you know that but when we are sitting at the table eating and my father would look upset (it was the only time he would get upset or worried was when it was about you, because my father is a strong and smart man and you know he does not worry about anything) but when he was upset everyone knew that it was because he had been given news from someone in the network about you.

And my mother would look at my father and he would shake his head and raise his hands the way apologetic fathers do trying to find and excuse for their bad sons and say “Victor... I just don't know” and he would look over at me and shake his head and he would say “That boy never learns” and he would say the grace and we would eat and my mother would start to talk about something and I would ask what happened to Victor and my mother would yell at me and my father would just make something up that was nothing about you.

But he did then and still does today keep track of all these men but there are some that everyone knows are his favorites and they seem to be the most broken ones like you.

My father says that you are chasing after the phantoms of disaster and the world will destroy itself without any help from you if you just let it happen it will – but father refuses to see that the anger of the young boy has flourished into something more fierce now in the man.

Let the world fall apart my love as we watch from the mountains or far off from the shore – like you have said before. It does not need you but to put out the flames on the final night when it is time for those better men to rebuild it all... and then you must slip away into the shadows again, because that new world will have no place for the men that did the slaughtering, the way the world casts away broken soldiers and what else do you have to give this world and what else is there for you to take from it but my love.

And now it is my turn to tell you

Yes I am afraid.

I am afraid of the anger that you keep at bay for my sake when I am around. I am afraid of the hatred that still grows that you will never get rid of. I am afraid of that pain that still burns inside of you because I know it will never fade. I am afraid of the ghost that you chase – Veronica, because no woman will ever be able to compete with her. And I am afraid when you go chasing after the ghost of her in those dark places in the night and in your mind and in your soul, because darling maybe one day you will not come back and maybe up to now you have been lucky... but that devil wants his pound of flesh... I know, you already made your deal, but I know you too well, my love, you still have debts that need to be paid in those dark places on the run.

I am afraid that I can not give you what you need or want and I am afraid that you might not give me what I need and want and I am afraid that maybe what this is is not love but something more simple and less expensive and that it is something than can be easily discarded or forgotten and left behind in some closet... like the way you tried to forget Veronica.

Who will you find to guard that shoe box of the memories of me Victor?

I am afraid of the things you will write about me when I have lost you to the ghost.

I am afraid that you will not abandon that road.

But I want you to abandon that road and we will lock ourselves up in Valparaiso or run away to the Black Sea and you can write poems and stories that no one will ever read and seduce me with your lies and leave me a broken mess – wreck my mind and crush my soul and drive my passion into madness... give me the love you would have given Veronica – I am afraid that if you really gave me the chance, I would crush all that is left you you my sweet monster, because yes, I have always been crazy but you did not ever help the situation - I would crush what is left of you and cut out your heart and build a new alter to the Godess of Blah Blah Blah and all those mad poets and wandering souls that the world abondoned, those dreamers and the fools for love that could not hold back the pain and the fury of their desire that only had the options of love or death – can find a place to rest under that alter that I will cover with the words you hid from this bitch of a world - what better way to go out my love.

I am afraid that I may never know the ghost of love the way you chase her.

I am afraid that maybe I too will ende up marying a man I do not love.

But maybe this is not love at all

You do not have to love me and I do not have to love you - isn't that what you said once to another woman? You don't have to love me to sit in silence with me and breath in the same moment with me.

This is true.

All of it and maybe I did not say it all the right way.

But there.

And I am afraid that one day I will lose this feeling and I will not come running back to you when you call me.

And I am afraid now that this letter is over that the moment I was running to and that you were running from has passed.

Because now


I can't do it anymore.

Forever,

D.

And then she wrote me another one telling me off like no woman has ever told me off before - it was absolute gold... and on that note...

he found a girl and they danced out of sight...














the madness and the memories

How disappointed would you be to find out that the world you think is real is nothing more than the twilight left behind from a magical experiment gone wrong... and you are, for the time being, trapped in the limbo between the dream and the consciousness of a sometimes lonely poet... who only wanted to slip back in time for a moment... and just a moment... a long time ago... to say the words that should have been said... to  look into her eyes for just a little bit longer... to find a glow of eternity and to find the truth of love in that last kiss... that ended too soon...

I am sorry for the inconvenience the hunger of my soul may be putting you through - but in my defense, I am no master wizard... nor where the men that  thought could help me find my way back to that girl... that left me when I was just beginning to come to life... and those wayward spirits... they play with ones emotions when it comes to negotiating their bargains... for they too wish to slip into the physical realm for reasons only they would understand... a bunch of jokers they are and really worthless in the affairs of love... if it is love that I was trying to go back and find... maybe not... she did not love me... but there were moments - in between the madness and the cries... when the city darkened and the voices out side the window faded away to where ever the whispered lies of unfaithful lovers disappear to... there were those moments when she was in my arms and I sang her songs I wrote for another woman... and the light came in through the cracks in the window that cast shadows on the walls and floor like light reflecting from a lake in the night... and she would let out her lazy moan and needed me to carry her to bed... and lay her down like a child... that moment... when I thought she would drift off to sleep... and I would try to rise from the bed with out disturbing her... when she would grab my arm and open her eyes and ask me if I loved her... and I would - with out hesitation lean in closer to her and say - "who else would you imagine that I could love..."

and her lip would curl just a bit in the corners and her whisper would tremble in a subtle way  - the way some notes sound out of place in your favorite song - but only you can notice it and can actually appreciate the awkward subtleties of a masterpiece... that my friends... and passersby... was the moment I was trying to get back to... when the hopes and dreams of other wandering fools clashed with mine and we ended up drifting in this chaos... chasing after the loves we lost and the moments that slipped away - that had they played out differently... my friends... you would have never come to know this wandering fool of a man and his ramblings...

When I tell the story of the one that got away - it is not you... nor are you the one for whom I spilled my blood for on the alter of Qamal... for one more moment in time with the one that slipped away to some other dream realm with what was left of my heart... and the scribbles I call poetry that suffocated my soul... and the words of the man I wanted to be for you...